Boy, this is a really true one. I should mention that Adam never wants me to sleep on the couch, but I take longer to cool off and longer to “get over it” so I usually sleep out there with a gloom and doom attitude which only serves to piss Adam off more…which is probably a little bit of the reason I do it too.
The reality is that I just have trouble sleeping next to someone when things are really truly going awry, it kind of seems like a lie and I’m not good at it. We’re getting better though. We’ve definitely learned it’s better to fix things immediately rather than sleeping on it. If I sleep on it I tend to get even angrier, rather than cooling off…which is eternally frustrating for both of us, but mostly Adam 
Sidenote: I think almost every comic this week used the tag CRAPTASTIC, which is a word I love, but it makes me feel like these comics have possibly been downers…I’ll try to lighten ’em up for next week…promise!
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Gee, sounds like some of what I went through the past few days. So I’m right there with you, just waiting for things to work themselves out. I’m hoping this week will get us back on our normal schedule and get the routine back on track. I hate being in the doghouse when I do nothing wrong.
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i feel like adam and i are pretty much both in the wrong when things go down like they did in the comic…maybe we take turns being the one that is “more wrong”, but it’s hard to be “totally right” in any situation i think, especially in a relationship. there are a few obvious “totally rights” like say…cheating for example (just off the top of my head, i swear).
i suspect adam techinically spends more time in the doghouse than i do and i’d like to credit that with the difference between men and women, but the reality is that adam just recovers more quickly and is ready to move on before i get there. we’re getting better though. we’ve both realized it is NOT a good idea to sleep on it. because he ususally sleeps like a baby and is over it by morning, but i toss and turn and stew and get even more pissed, giving us even more ground to cover the next day. sigh.
this comic is a bit dated though, because we fought before we left for separate christmas breaks and when we got back together for our own christmas (and anniversary) in nyc we had an amazing three or four days together…with nobody sleeping on the couch.
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Well that’s good that it ended well. It usually ends well at home too, but I’m more like you in that I stew and stew and stew until I boil over like a pot on the stove. And there was a period of time where I slept on the couch many nights a week because I was so torqued up that I just didn’t want to deal with it. Then we had a breakthrough (and break downs) and ploughed our way through.
This past week was rough for me because, well, let’s just say somebody was being a capital B with everyone, not just me. I’m thinking the new pill works, but has some sour side effects. Things should be better by next week and she’s already looking for a Wii for me.
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